Adoption With Love
WELCOME! My Promise is to be sure that you, other adults, and teens alike have a welcoming community. One where you are able to talk safely, intimately, and comfortably, about your journey.
Why? Because we relate to others via story. Your story might contain some human element with which another person could relate, offering a solution and/or take them on their own journey.
Adopting with Love should not be a secret…
In 1975 shortly after I turned fifteen, I learned that my father is not my biological father. My whole life and world were shattered by this discovery. Then I heard something that broke my heart.
Earlier this week, someone shared with me her dear friend’s story. The friend told her son, who was fifteen at the time, the truth about his father and that he was not his biological father but that he was indeed adopted. The son, unable to bear the weight of this news and the emotional turmoil that it created, ran away from home. The son’s mother recently passed away without ever having heard from her son after he ran away. It breaks my heart to hear these tales and I am determined to do whatever I can to prevent other parents, adoptive or not, from ever going thru something like this.
A dear friend of mine, who adopted her daughter, asked me to consider the following topic Adoptive Parents might encounter. So I ask “Does your child experience issues with abandonment and betrayal even though they were adopted with love?” The number who say yes is truly shocking!
I’ve witnessed other stories where a fourteen year-old boy stopped returning his parent’s calls. I know exactly how both of these young adults felt. At age fifteen, I also wanted to run away. I told my mother to leave me alone.
Each of these stories reminded me of my purpose and serve to strengthen my mission. I am here to help you. I want you to know that you’re safe here. Feel free to reach out…to stay…to listen and/or to chat…as if we were sitting on a soft & comfy couch. I so much desire to hear your story…to be there for you.
Gradually over a span of 29 years, I discovered the power of love, and I learned to heal..And eventually, through that same power of love – I discovered forgiveness and acceptance.
Now I would like to help you learn through my experiences, my insights, and the difficult lessons I have had to learn. I would like to share with you how I overcame feelings of betrayal, anger and abandonment. And I learned to forgive and love. You too can live a life filled with meaningful relationships with your friends, your family, and most importantly…. with yourself.
She enjoys all aspects of foreign cultures, including exotic cuisines, cultural history, and language. She studied writing at DeAnza College and Stanford and is a member of the California Writers Club South Bay Branch. A speaker and blogger on adoption-related issues, Carina is currently pursuing a bachelor’s degree in psychology. When not attending school, she enjoys spending time with her family, reading, and nature hiking. She lives in Palo Alto, California.Read More
On the heels of her discovery, she and her family pursue her father’s dream; an exotic drive through the Middle East and Europe, which serves as a metaphoric journey for the woman Carina becomes—a silent nomad searching for identity. The trip lands the family in Paris, where Carina becomes entrenched in delicious foreign foods and a mysterious foreign man.
Through Carina’s own struggles with betrayal, forgiveness, love, and trust, readers are able to relate and celebrate their own journey to self-discovery.Read More
Behold, Be Still, Believe = Be Heard Behold the beautiful person you are! You bring love and light into the world just by being you.-Carina S. Burns
Drawing from her own personal experiences, Carina Burns shares a journey of transformation. Having been adopted as a child by her father, and not discovering this history until she was fifteen, Carina Burns became well acquainted with the process of acceptance, healing, and learning to trust and love again.
The exotic journey through the Middle East and Europe portrayed in The Syrian Jewelry Box serves as a metaphor for her personal journey in overcoming the shock of betrayal by those she trusted the most. Inspired by her past, The Syrian Jewelry Box: A Daughter’s Journey for Truth chronicles a teenage heroine who triumphs over her identity crisis and learns the power of love.Read More
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Carina Burns has looked within herself, faced her demons, and developed the courage to share her journey of love, perceived betrayal, angst, and regenerative love. I first knew Carina before she learned of her adoption. She was a typical carefree teenager enjoying the ‘good life’ of a third-culture expatriate kid. Only recently have I reconnected with her. She has quite a story, a gift she shares with passion. Carina Burns is truly ‘becoming’ in every way imaginable.~ Richard Maack, Junior High School Principal, Saudi Arabia
One cannot expect to walk in on a life that is so private and has been like that for years and not find similarities that will taunt you and challenge you to resolve those issues that have long been contaminating your life. When you realize that the issues you have unpacked have left your life naked and painfully raw from the death of your natural beliefs, The Syrian Jewelry Box will become your anecdote.~Barbie Lightbody
Carina! Thank you for sharing! I think what is most appealing about you and (for me) comes through in your writing is that you really, truly, speak from the heart. Especially from my perspective– being adopted, struggling with my own truths about my family and biological father, I know I can relate to much of your story. But even outside of that– reading your writing feels like a conversation, like I’ve known you for years– which is something I find to be one of the most important aspects of a writer. People want to feel connected and you have that grace that pulls your reader in and makes it intimate and comforting to read your story.~ Nickcole W.
“The Syrian Jewelry Box is a beautifully expressed story from an adopted child written in a manner which will help bring contentment and comfort to all adopted readers. It is skillfully blended into the journey of a child who in adolescence discovers she was adopted by her non-biological father when he married her biological mother. Her reactions to the emotional assaults of this discovery run the gamut from distraught anger to sublime forgiveness as she confronts them in a difficult but successful campaign. Her story combines her childhood memories of the family’s residences and travels throughout Europe and the Middle East into a travelogue augmented by many photos taken by her father.”~ Anthony J. Zamarchi, Sr., Raytheon Middle East Systems
“Having lived through it herself, Carina understands the pain and shock that comes with our lives being turned upside-down. She also knows how to navigate the complexity of emotions and changes in day-to-day living that occur enabling others who’ve been in this place to finally be able to find peace and love within. Her compassion is matched only by her dedication to helping us all.”~Kelsey George, Creative Services Manager and mother