3 Most Important Truths When

Talking About Adoption  

Inside I share with you -

                            Truth #1:  Every child deserves to know the truth.
                            Truth #2:  Love comes from the bonds that we create not from the bloodlines that we share.
                            Truth #3:  You can't always protect your child from the hurtful truth.

      Truth #1:  Every child deserves to know the truth.

    – Many people believe that delaying the truth causes no harm. When I discovered that I was adopted, shock anger and fear engulfed me. How would I overcome this betrayal? I could not trust my parents, let alone myself...I felt abandoned.

    Why does the date on your wedding ring read 1962, but I was born in 1960?

    Dead silence. Her face paled. Mom looked down at the table and then up at me. She looked anxious. After a long pause, she heaved a sigh and finally answered with a trembling voice, “We wanted to tell you when you turned eighteen."

    I felt every one of my muscles tense in my body as time stood still and a pit formed inside my stomach.

    Her brown brows shot up with concern just as they formed a perfect double arc, and her lips quivered.Your father is not your

     biological father.”

    My brain understood what I just heard, but I felt overwhelmed with a sense of detachment. My foundation, everything I believed

    in, disappeared.

    Why didn’t you tell me earlier?I shrilled.

    Mom didn’t move.

    Staring blankly at me, she said,We wanted to wait until you were old enough to understand.” From my memoir The Syrian  

    Jewelry  Box Chapter 12 (The Discovery, Jeddah, Saudi Arabia (1975))

    In my heart, I knew that she was right. However, I wished that my parents had not kept my identity a secret all those years until I discovered it myself at fifteen. As a result, fear permeated my entire life. The truth seeped through my veins like poison. Withholding the truth only exacerbates upon discovery any underlying issues the child might be experiencing during his or her developmental years. Children are never too young to hear the truth—as long as they are raised in a loving environment. Children deserve to hear the truth about their identity. I would have had an easier time transitioning. If a parent hides a child’s true identity, the child will still feel it. They will ask questions until they discover the truth. Secrets imply guilt and shame; they encourage suspicion and blame. Children deserve to embrace their own truth and live it.

My book guides you along an adoptee's journey and nurtures love in order to help you overcome feelings of anger and betrayal.  I've dedicated this guide book to sharing with you how I prevailed and triumphed over my identity crisis and learned the power of love.
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What People Are Saying

Nickcole W.

“Carina! Thank you for sharing! I think what is most appealing about you and (for me) comes through in your writing is that you really, truly, speak from the heart. Especially from my perspective– being adopted, struggling with my own truths about my family and biological father, I know I can relate to much of your story. But even outside of that– reading your writing feels like a conversation, like I’ve known you for years– which is something I find to be one of the most important aspects of a writer. People want to feel connected and you have that grace that pulls your reader in and makes it intimate and comforting to read your story.”